The Virginity Card is a sacred (metaphorical) card that all people have. The metaphorical card that we carry identifies our purity. Although in US society we have our own speculations on what it means to carry our V-cards. For men we are brought believing that it is a good thing to lose our virginity at an early age, and that having a lot of sex makes us real men and we are praised by our peers by doing so. On the other hand women are supposed to hold on to their virginity until the day they get married and our put to shame for breaking that sacred bond of purity. This sense of purity in women is at times used to determine their worth. For example when a man meets a women who is a virgin it is seen as a good thing, and is held to a higher standard than a women who is sexually active. In Jessica Valenti’s film, "The Purity Myth," she examines and explains the myth of purity associated with the women’s virginity.

Paternity has a huge impact on purity and virginity in today’s culture. It is up to the father to protect his daughter and not let her lose her innocence. I believe this comes from the fact that before women had any rights they were considered property and their fathers decided who they could and could not marry. Even in today’s culture it is considered tradition, or old school, for a man to get the father’s blessing before marring his daughter. The control of a women’s sexuality by their father is insane. No human being should be allowed to decide how one treats their body or how one chooses to live their life. After a certain age we are all in control of our own lives and our own decisions a parent’s role is to protect us until that point, and put us on a path to living an extraordinary life.

According to Valenti, the contemporary virginity movement holds women back and prevents them from doing things outside of their gender roles. The idea of abstinence is to prevent childhood pregnancies, but it also contributes to assigning gender roles amongst men and women. They teach abstinence in schools to tell children to wait until marriage to have sex thus assigning the gender roles of the common house wife. In the film abstinence speakers would preach about how sinful sex is and it is dangerous and bad. They also give false perceptions about sex and take their views to extremes. Abstinence programs have proven not to work. This is not surprising based on the fact that one of the biggest and most successful topics for advertisement is sex. Sex is everywhere and pornography is easy to obtain in today’s culture so how can they expect abstinence to be affective?